Happy birthday to our Macy! <3
All tagged infant loss
A re-introduction to Dr. Bookworm
Mini Me was a precocious two-year old, and she pulled me and my husband through the muddy, tangled, dredgy waters that is the thing we call GRIEF.
Every year, we celebrate Macy and her short life. She taught me so much about myself, though Iām not sure everyone would understand that. She also reinforced my love and respect for Mr. Bookworm, who has been a true partner to me every step of the way.
I posted a letter to Macy on my Caring Bridge site on her one year birthday. At the time of my pregnancy with her, it was my lifeline to my supportive family and friends.
I wanted to share what was going on with us, but I did not want to have to say my story over and over again. So I did what I do best: I wrote about it. I wrote and wrote, and so many people sent me messages of support, either on Caring Bridge itself, or by email, or in person. Or even verbal messages through my sisters and parents.
Celebrating the 5 year book anniversary of Special Delivery:
What's Special Delivery? It's a children's book that I wrote when Mini Me was two years old and I was pregnant with Macy, my daughter who lived only briefly. One sleepless night I couldn't get these words out of my head as we were figuring out how to tell Mini Me that her sister was likely going to die.
Eventually, for Macy's funeral, we had five books printed at a local shop. And then, in 2012, we received a grant from Sappi Ideas That Matter to have the book published so that we could distribute them to other families, free of cost.
On Fridays on my way to work, I see the same man walking toward the cemetery with a huge bunch of flowers. I only see him if I go to work after dropping off the girls, but like clockwork, he is there with his fisherman's vest on, and that bright bundle of flowers. Every time I see him, I can't help but smile. But it's a bittersweet smile.
Dr. Bookworm talks about visiting her daughter at the cemetery and certain trends that she's noticed.
"My mommy guilt comes in the form of cemetery visits. "
Dr. Bookworm talks about Project Macy--a creative calendar countdown as way of getting through a difficult month.
Dr. Bookworm talks about a family tradition in the Bookworm household and about making new traditions. They both involve celebrating Macy while acknowledging that grief is tough.
Dr Bookworm discusses being that 1 in 4 whose pregnancy ended in miscarriage, still birth, or infant death.
October is Pregnancy Loss and Infant Awareness month, something close to Dr. Bookworm's heart.